Random Ramblings: Trust & friendship

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Hello there! I don't know but I feel like rambling today.

Just a random thought, trust and friendship go hand in hand. Just like being in a relationship, you need to build trust among yourselves. It is a vital part of your friendship because this establishes a strong connection within the circle. Sharing secrets, thoughts and emotions are just some of the things that you do with your friends. You laugh, you cry, you go crazy and you create memories with them. But what ruins trust within friends?

Not trusting is almost synonymous to unfriending someone. It is like choosing to remove them from your lives completely. Forgetting the memories, the things you shared and the advice you've said to help them out. There will come a time when you thought that you've helped them out but they still think that you just want to ruin their happiness. There will be times that you thought you know them and then all of a sudden something they do will make you question how much you know them.

Change is inevitable and you just can't it, it just comes randomly. People change constantly as well, between friends, it happens as well. People they meet, encounter and fall in love with may affect the change that may happen within them. We may question why it happened, how and when but there will come a time when there is nothing else that you can do but to listen and understand.

Acceptance, a huge word that is important especially when there are changes happening. When all you can do is stop what you are thinking and accept whatever decision they make in life. You cannot do anything if you did everything you can to help them realize the truth but are still too stubborn to listen and understand.

Silence, this may be the last resort that we can do. It is a sign that you have stopped helping and just letting them do what they want to do. If they don't want to listen, so be it. For me, I will get tired of trying to help out but still they see you as a bad person. Doing whatever it takes to make them feel loved and cared for but still they see it as the opposite, I'd rather be quiet and move on with my life.

People will come and go in our lives, unfortunately friends will be the same. You thought they will be a permanent part of your life but there will be times that you just have to let go. You did your best, you've been a good friend but still nothing seems to be in its rightful place. You are tired, you need to rest your mind and your soul. Time heals all wounds and forgiveness will come naturally. You will be ok, they will be ok.

 "Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing." 

― Elie Wiesel